Yes.
Those famous words from the little show with the big wardrobe budget. In Sex And The City, Episode 4 of Season 6, when Carrie Bradshaw’s boyfriend uttered those six little words, over a mouthful of food, I might add, it struck a chord with me. I watched the episode, I subsequently bought the book and hell, I even watched the movie. All with the same idea gnawing away in the back of my head.
For me, it wasn’t about saying goodbye to the head games and drama and finally realizing what’s real and what I truly deserve. Nah. I’m still as clueless as ever when it comes to drama free dating.
For me, where the words were coming from made all the difference. I’m talking about who was saying them. Yep. You guessed it. A man. It makes sense, doesn’t it? No one is better qualified to give better relationship advice to a woman than a man. Who else knows the complexity of the male brain better than another guy?
It’s what I call Manvice and it’s a fabulous thing to behold.
There are a few rules., however, to make sure the Manvice arena remains true and untarnished.
1. The man you choose must be just a friend with absolutely no interest in you whatsoever. There can be no hidden agendas involving his bed and/or his penis. Write that one down because it’s important.
2. He needs to be a card carrying heterosexual. Sure, gay friends are fantastic but you need a guy with a wealth of experience dating women.
3. You must never, under any circumstances, ask for Manvice in the middle of the night after a horrendous fight or while you’re standing outside your exes house in the rain with mascara running down your face. That’s what your girlfriends are for. Manvice is harsh and brutal. Men don’t sugar coat anything and if you’re crying, they will hang up on you.
Which brings me to the final rule:
4. You have to be ready to hear it. A man will tell you the truth and sometimes, the truth hurts. Hey, sometimes Manvice is good. Sometimes it’s great! Your manfriend will walk you through the first date and help ensure you get a second date. He can decode all the signals and let you know in an instant if this is someone worth pursuing. Best of all, you can believe it because it’s coming from a GUY! But, sometimes, and believe me, I have been there, he’ll tell you those words that we may not want to hear:
He’s just not that into you…
Either way, stop guessing and stop obsessing. Get yourself a qualified Manvice practitioner. I have four fabulous manfriends who mean the world to me and have been there for me through good times and bad. I suggest you get yourself one right now.
Let me know how it goes, would you?
